Women's Illnesses - A Social Stigma

[Trillian]

I only just saw this now too LOL. I'm with Dach and Bx on this one - it's not that it's a female issue, its that its a personal one and you would find the same response with the *male* ilnesses too. People just don't know what is the appropriate way to act upon hearing news of a pg loss or *female* illness - both males and females so they just shuffle around the topic, they acknowledge it, but not address it kwim?

[paradise lost]

I do think now, with a few more experiences under my belt (of peoples' attitudes, not loss or illness thank goodness) that part of this problem is to do with what people talk about under NORMAL circumstances. In the absence of illness, after a perfectly normal pregnancy and delivery most people (myself not included ) STILL wouldn't ask after anything physical. It's not the same everywhere - Sheila Kitzinger writes about once not lang after the birth of her first baby she was at a posh dinner with many ambassadors and the French ambassador, a middle-aged man, on hearing of her recent arrival leaned across the table and called out "And do you have plenty of milk for the baby?" - that would be considered in poor taste in the UK and pretty much scandalous in the US.

In a society that NEVER EVER wants to discuss even a normal healthy situation relating to fertility, reproduction etc., why WOULD we suddenly be able to handle it when then there's a problem. XP has taught DD to says "Don't kick dada in the testiclay!" but you should see him blush if she makes reference to her vagina with the proper word!

Bx

[~Aveta~]

it's a curly one. as a complementary therapist, i chat to both men and women about their health problems, in the treatment room. it's not something i'd bring up in general conversation, no do i think a man would be willing to chat about his prostate if he wasn't seeing me on a professional level, KWIM?

but i agree, women's particular health issues do seem to be squirm-worthy for men. my ex-H could never talk to me about it, admittedly he was an older generation, but DF and i can talk about a lot, probably because of all we've been through this last year. he'll still dry-retch at the sight of my period blood if we're in the shower together, but i think that's more his weak stomach, lol.

i'm going to think about this more and get back to you.