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Yes, I have to say I do, however I do this of all people - thin, fat, buff. Considering I am in the obese category, it is highly judgemental of me to think this way of larger people but it is something that I am trying to be more aware of. I think this is a reflection of me & how I perceive myself & self worth.
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On the forum, i never take into account what I think people look like.. i dont really get pictures in my head too much about people, but I dont think about it, so therefore it probably would effect me to know what people do look like, coz its wouldnt spoil any perceptions i had.. IRL i am probably more judgemental of these skinny skinny young girls who need to eat!!!! I have one friend who was complaining because she had to buy size 8-10 jeans instead of her usual size 6 and i nearly punched her!!! (maybe be a little jealously there though :-()
I am another whose body has changed dramatically since having my kids, and i miss my old skinny body, but i dont feel like mentally I have changed as a person. Only the way i look, altough sadly, some days though i guess it has changed how i feel about myself and in some ways my confidence. I am trying to loose weight and become healthier, but nothing is working and that in itself is slightly depressing.
I am still me, there is just more of me!!
Last edited by ~StarBright~; June 20th, 2011 at 09:06 AM.
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I definately try not to, but I won't say I don't. Whether you think you do it or not, I think most people do it to some extent. It's the way our society is. If I do form judgements on people based on how they look, I always try to refrain from imposing it on them before I really meet them and know them. I really try to remain open minded. But when I meet people, I do depend alot on my gut reactions and first impressions on how I see someone.
"I know I am incredibly judgmental, I blame it on growing up in a small town. It's something I am working on"
I have recently come to realise how terrible a small town can be in judging people. It's actaully really shocking to me!
Last edited by MrsFabuloso; June 20th, 2011 at 09:19 AM.
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Sorry to disagree but I can confidently say I've never judged someone on their weight.
Having been over weight my whole life I know the pain of it all too well and wouldn't subject someone else to it.
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I might get a bit judgmental if someone I know or meet who is overweight complains about it and doesn't actually do anything material to address their own complaints, or does things to perpetuate their own unhappiness! But not in a way that I don't want to know them, just in the way where I think "You CAN do something about this and choose not to, so shuddup till you wanna do something about it".
Meanwhile, I guess I have friends of all shapes and sizes and I probably surprise myself with how that doesn't matter to me, given how judgmental my mum and DP are about 'fat people'!
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I don't 'usually' judge someone based on weight. I tend to judge the personalities behind that weight (or lack thereof).
[I say 'usually, because I am sure, me being human, there is an exception in there somewhere; and to be completely honest, I do tend to steriotype overweight children a bit - as in they tend to be say, lacking confidence, unsure of themselves, uneducated about nutrition and exercise, and 'usually' don't have parents who know how to role model those things for them: not because the parents don't care, but because the issues surrounding weight gain / loss can seem completely insurmountable and get a grasp on on a personal level, let alone in passing it onto the next generation.]
I think because I my personal history (been everything from underweight to morbidly obese and everywhere in between) and because of my current job (in the weightloss industry), I am much more conscious of the steriotypes I am applying to people in regards to weight. I have met some fabulous, confident, extremely attractive people of many different sizes, just as I have met some very sad, selfconscious, socially fearful people of many different sizes as well.
Some people will be happy easygoing people no matter what size they are, and some people will be unhappy no matter what size they are.
My biggest problem is trying to resist the urge to 'help' everyone. I love my job because it allows me to help people who want to be helped, but when I see my friends (of all sizes) who are struggling with weight issues, it is hard not to jump in enthusiastically and give them my advice (particularly if they have chosen for themselve a method of which I don't agree). So I try not to say anything much unless asked a direct question. Of course if any of my friends were to actually say or ask my opinion or help, I would be more then happy to share every little bit of information and knowledge I have acquired through my work and experiences to help them, just as I would any of my clients.
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No i don't judge a person by how much they weigh. That is not important to me it doesn't change who the person is. Afterall 'weight' is just a number!
My mum has been morbidly obese for most of my life, she is fat because she is unhappy with her life. My oldest sister had a bad side effect from a medication and ballooned from a healthy size 8 (kids size) to a 14 in only 6 weeks. She then went on to have issues with weight so she too has been obese for as long as i can remember. Then there was my little sister who was borderline annorexic at 18 years old because when she was 11 someone called her fat. She stands at 5'6 and weighed only 46kgs and then there was me who was in the middle of the two.. not too fat and not too skinny..
I have been guilty of laughing and calling a girl fat, but thats to make myself feel better and didnt like this person. I don't mean it and it really doesn't make me feel better.
I am really ashamed of my weight, i will often say no to invitations to go out because i am almost always the biggest person in a crowd..
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I'm overweight myself, and I would never judge someone on their weight because, well I'm overweight myself!!! Although in saying this, if I see a morbidly obese person at the shops who can't even fit behind their front wheel of the drivers seat, then I do feel sorry for that person, sorry for them that they have let themselves get that overweight.....
Some PP's have mentioned how they perceive overweight people to be 'shy' 'lacking confidence' etc all those sorta things, but I am the complete opposite!!!I am very confident, happy, social etc person, my only problem is I eat the WRONG foods and don't exercise!!! What can I say, I LOVE my food
I eat healthy for breakfast, lunch, dinner its in between those meals I find myself being naughty LOL
I can lose weight if I want to but I have to be feeling really motivated too!Although in saying that, once bub is 8 weeks I'll be starting my new health plan
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I don't instant judge. I will get to know someone first. I know a few larger people that I don't talk food to as there's no reason to. I know some larger people who whinge then have third helpings and 2 puddings at every meal. I admit to judging that type of person - just eat less, it ain't hard! Whinging about weight while eating a 500g bar of chocolate and asking me for a lift to town... I will say something.
Whinging about weight while asking me to be a running buddy, on the other hand, nothing but support and compassion when you want to talk weight. Or if you don't. It's not something I choose to talk about a lot.
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Just thought I would add that in my experience overweight / obese people can be just as judgemental about anothers weight as those who are skinny / healthy weights.
The number of times I have had to insert myself into a conversation I have heard clients having about other members, judging that member becuase they are deemed to be too skinny to worry about their seight or their health - it is shocking. It doesn't matter what size you are, everyone has their insecurities, and anyone who is doing something to better their health and control their weight should be applauded - not judged like that. I found one member in tears because some of the bigger people had told her she shouldn't be there because she was too skinny. She only wanted to loose 3kgs. I wish I had of been smart enough to get help when I only needed to loose 3 kgs rathe then waiting until it got to 30kgs! And another member who has had to defend her attendance to small minded people on occaision - she is a life time member, and little do people realise what she had to go through to get where she is now: she lost over 70kgs (although you would never guess it to look at her now) and has managed to maintain it for quite a few years now.
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Not when it comes to size but I have to say I can be judgemental when it comes to behaviour in public, adults not kids.
I tend to move away from people, particularly men who are very loud, touchy feely, swear a lot, aggressive in your face types without "getting to know them".
For me I don't care if your over weight for medical reasons or want to sit on ya bum all day and down 20 cheese burgers. It's your own life and you have to live it.
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I haven't and never will judge anyone on their weight. I have been judged my whole life and would never put anyone through that pain.
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