Honestly, I think that there would be very few people who could read those books, adopt that philosophy and have it go easy peasy without any troubles. What I have learnt is that we can read all the parenting books in the world, but our kids don't read those same books so sometimes it kinda ends up with you trying to fit a square peg in a round hole kwim? I think that it is probably being overly ambitious of anyone to think that they can get it to work exactly as it says in the books - sometimes they might and that's awesome, but the reality would be that some parents would have to make concessions if they are going to make anything work.

So what I reckon is stop trying to put so much pressure on yourself to be a certain type of parent and just be yourself, because I'm sure being yourself and just doing whatever works for you and the girls on that particular day is going to be far better for everyone involved as opposed to you trying to stick to something that sounds like it isn't working and making you a mess in the process. Your girls aren't going to care that you followed Pinky or the continuum concept down to the the last letter, they are going to care that you do whatever works for all of you

And that doesn't mean you are a sellout, or not a gentle enough parent, all that means is that you realise that sometimes your little square pegs need a square hole even if the book says they need the round one