Kind of a frustrated vent - so that I can go back to sleep! LOL

A friend of mine was visiting yesterday, and I asked how her neighbour was going, who had a baby a few months before me. Apparently they are in the middle of a world trip! With 3 kids! :eek: Anyway... I asked if she was still breastfeeding, coz that would be WAY convenient while travelling - wouldn't have to worry about water etc. She said no, and went on to say that because he wasn't sleeping through the night, they decided to give him formula at night, and it worked, so obviously he wasn't getting enough from the breastmilk She didn't say when they started this, and I didn't ask, but obviously it led to him not being breastfed at all. Mum said she could see me holding my tongue on so many aspects of this.

But anyway, this morning at our 5am feed, it was buzzing through my head, so I had to come and post.

Just HOW do we try to educate/inform people?? Look at what my friend has learnt from this:
1. That babies should be sleeping through the night
2. That formula will fix this!

All I could bring myself to say was that I still happily breastfeed, and Tallon still doesn't sleep through the night.

This friend I think hopes to have kids some day, and omg - I just find myself wanting to tell people everything I've learnt here.. but how do you do it without that information shooting other people down in flames??

Now I need to find another book to add to my future baby shower presents. LOL. I told DH a while ago, that at any baby shower I go to, I know exactly what I'm getting them - either Pinky's Sleeping like a Baby book, or the No Cry Sleep Solution book, (can't decide which yet, I have both hehhe), and a paid ABA breastfeeding class, and now I need something that tells them it's normal for a baby not to sleep through, and that YES, your baby's getting enough from breastmilk!! LOL. Especially when they're not the types to come onto the internet for information.

Argh its very frustrating at times. And I do find myself getting frustrated that I still get up around two times a night to Tallon... and I know it's normal! but to hear of how people FIX these 'problems'. argh! From what I've read, I'm not sure there's a great deal I can do about Tallon's sleeping - if he was waking every sleep cycle, then yes, I could use some methods in those books, but he's sleeping for about 3-4 hrs, so it's not an issue of him not getting himself back to sleep during those lightsleep parts of the sleep cycle. So I don't see him having a sleep problem iykwim. And formula is just NOT an option in this house, not when we're so successfully breastfeeding. WHY would I want to give him that stuff?? I have no plans on using any toddler milk either.

But it just churns me up inside when I see what people without kids are learning before they even have them. Their poor babies have expectations to live up to before they're even born

Anyway, thanks for reading. Hopefully now I can climb back into bed and sleep! hehe. Altho I'm pretty awake now