11 mth old DD won't feed to sleep anymore.... bugger... what now?

[Shanti]

Heaven - thanks but it sounds like you are just as tired as me!!
It's only because I haven't had more than 3hrs straight sleep in a row for a few weeks now... I also find it hard to sleep at night sometimes myself and I find i'm wide awake because I worry she'll wake me if i fall asleep... kwim??? I'm sure you understand that!!
do you sleep during the day when your DD sleeps?

Sneaky - yeah i would love to rock DD to sleep but she won't let me lately... she kicks and arches her back and screams and wants to be put down but doesn't want to be on her own...

so the best thing for us at this stage i guess is keep doing what we are doing?
And that is....lying down with her when she's letting us know she's real tired and waiting for her to stop moving around and rolling etc and then wait til she drifts off.... which takes about 30mins.... I guess that's the best thing for us at the moment... at least then I get rest too!

I'd say it's just a stage (like all of it! LOL!) and she'll outgrow it soon enough.... would just love to see my little girl getting more sleep. she slept 1.5hrs just before so that was really good. I got to lie down.

Just wanted to see what others were doing....

ps she woke up just before and was blowing raspberries on my tummy.... haha cute....makes it all worthwhile

[Jakabella]

Yep Bella used to do this to but it has all passed now, She used to co-sleep but I didnt get a great sleep so she is back in her cot now. At night I try and put her down after her feed but if she is awake I will wait 15 mins as long as she is NOT crying and if she is not asleep then get up for 15 mins and keep going. Some nights she will not go to bed till 9.30 - 10pm but when she goes down she is usually down for the count. She will some times wake for a bottle around 3am but then back to bed awake and will drift off and sleep till 7am. Last night it was 7pm till 7am! That is a first for a long time!

I think the thing that changed all the sleep issues for us was to not push it = I used to spend alot of time trying to get Bella to sleep and I would get upset and so would she - so now I follow her lead and it only took a few night time partys to get a routine going! I also go with her lead during the day as well - if she has 2 sleeps all good or if she has no sleeps all good.

I also try to play physical games during the day as well - we play a game where she crawls around and I chase her - she LOVES it! She laughes so much that she cant crawl anymore! Bella is walking alot now also so she is using alot energy that way as well.

Dunno if anything that I said helps - but I guess its good to know that we were having the same sleep issues and now they are better! It WILL get better!!

Kate

[Shanti]

Jakabella - yep same here... we don't force her sleep.. if she doesn't want to sleep then we don't make her... she must not be tired enough and as i said below, we then try again 15mins later....
My situation is a bit different to your's though, your DD has quite often slept through the night (correct me if i'm wrong!).... so if she doesn't sleep through the day i guess it's not as a big deal for her....
if my DD has been up 2hrly all night, i NEED her to sleep during the day too... kwim?? lol
so i can get rest.... but her day sleeps are great.. she has two big day sleeps (most days) so im really lucky. (1hr and then 1.5hr most days)

just getting her to sleep is our problem at the moment... but im sure it will pass. oh, that and the frequent night wakings....(not always teething related!)

[Sterla]

DS is starting to do this occasionally - I started a thread about it too! I'm the same - if he won't let me feed him to sleep, I'm very stuck! I've managed to rock him to sleep a few times, but it takes a long time and a lot of changing positions and him squirming... it's like he has all the built up energy he needs to release before he can allow himself to fall asleep.

That sucks about the night sleeping too! We've had some rough patches, and even now it's rare to get more than 3 hours at a time out of DS. I hope you get some solutions!

[Rowellen]

ps she woke up just before and was blowing raspberries on my tummy.... haha cute....makes it all worthwhile

So cute! My DS does that too! I love it.

I have been having some sleep issues lately with DS. He's about the same age as your DD. It has improved recently as he is now having 1 longer day sleep instead of 2. He was having 2 one & a half hour sleeps at about 9 or 10 then 2 -3. Now he is sleeping 3+ hours over lunch. This has improved things considerably & he has stopped fighting so much when it's sleep time. I guess he just wasn't tired before. The routine is still out of wack but it is gradually settling down. He was also waking regularly at night, I think it was a combination of teething & not being tired enough. Now he is back to waking just once. I also think he is going to start walking soon so going through one of those milestone phases.

Sorry that's a bit wordy.

I hope you get some sleep soon.

[Peach*]

Similar thing happening in this house! DD hasnt fed to sleep in almost two weeks. She slept the full night in her pram last night(finally fell asleep around 2 am Aaaaargh) after me trying boob, patting , rocking, repeat repeat

Will your DD go to sleep in her pram? We have been taking DD for a walk(covered so she cant see all the action) and then transferring DD into her cot at night once she is in a deep sleep. Although last night we couldnt make the transition... Its handy as we can just have the pram next to our bed too if need be.

Ive been fantisising this week about CC as bad as that sounds it just feels like everyone who does it has perfect babies who sleep happily at bed time without a peep. I jnow thats not the way it works though...

Good luck with your appt Shanti.

[Arcadia]

Ive been fantisising this week about CC as bad as that sounds it just feels like everyone who does it has perfect babies who sleep happily at bed time without a peep. I jnow thats not the way it works though...

peach. I think we have all fantasised at some point!

Our babies WILL sleep better in time! In the meantime we are creating perfectly attached babies, who feel secure and confident in the knowledge you are always there. I just have to look at the confident, outgoing, smiley little girl I have to know its all worth it!

Maybe we should all start threads about how to get extra help so we can sleep in the day and not worry about other things, so we can parent in a way that is best for our family.

gentle parenting is hard sometimes!