DS is starting to do this occasionally - I started a thread about it too! I'm the same - if he won't let me feed him to sleep, I'm very stuck! I've managed to rock him to sleep a few times, but it takes a long time and a lot of changing positions and him squirming... it's like he has all the built up energy he needs to release before he can allow himself to fall asleep.

That sucks about the night sleeping too! We've had some rough patches, and even now it's rare to get more than 3 hours at a time out of DS. I hope you get some solutions!