mumiloo - oh welcome to the world where people assume you are stupid for doing things differently and tell you off without having any evidence to back you up. Take pride and security in the research you have been done and trust your instincts. You know what is best for your family. I know there was some beautiful research presented at the hotmilk conference on cosleeping - maybe someone who was there could give you more info.

I have coslept with both my kids and they are both very much alive and unsquashed. I am the same as you though and don't take even over the counter drugs as I do believe it can result in an artifical and deeper sleep then you would normal have.

All the best