Gosh Fig, what you have just posted is exactly what is happening in my house atm! My 3.5 is yelling growling, not listening at all, being rough and just plain awful. I am now realising that I have all of the sudden started yelling at him all the time, even a few smacks and general short temperedness. I see now that I need a huge attitude change when it comes to DS and then he will eventually follow suit. Thankks Fig x