Hello girls,
Can I pick your brains?
I have a headstrong 12 month old girl. I really do love her to bits and for the most time, she's a really good girl. She's always been very determined (you could call it pig-headed) which I think is one of the reasons she crawled at 5 months and walked at 9.
But this same determination can also be so challenging for me. I do admire it, but I don't like it when it is aimed at me IYKWIM.

Of course I can't expect a 1 year old to have patience. But it is so frustrating when she just screams until she gets something. In the afternoons she gets a bottle of milk (apart from that, she is BFed). She really likes it and when she sees it, she wants it. But I have to heat it, put the lid on etc. And she just screams non stop until she has it in her hands. It's not an upset scream, more like an angry scream. No tears.
And then sometimes she just wants to be carried and if I even put her down for 2 seconds (when I need 2 hands to for example pull the rubbish bag out of the bin). Then she just sreams....
Or when I have to change a poopy nappy. She hates it. Sometimes I can distract her enough, but other times she just screams and tries to get up and put her hands in the poo,...
And when we feed her, she has a new habit of trying to climb out of her high chair. She loves her food, but loves climbing more. She's so strong,... it can send me up the wall. The pulling food out of her mouth and playing with it or throwing it on the ground, I can deal with that. It's the climbing, that gets to me.

As I said. mostly she's a good girl. But I don't want her to think that this behaviour is acceptable. She's too young to reason with, so I don't quite know what to do. Any ideas?

I know that she's at the height of separation anxiety, and that's why she wants to be held. But I have to be able to put her down for a few seconds every now and then. I know that sitting still is boring for her, so I try to give her a spoon or a lid or something to play with when feeding her, but sometimes nothing works.

Sasa