Co-sleep moving to own bed

[appletree]

You are definitely not the only one Softy! There are lots of parents like us out there, even if its only for part of the night

Once she is asleep, does she sleep the whole night through? Could you put her to sleep in your bed and then transfer her to her own bed once she is sound asleep and unlikely to wake when you move her?

I am just going to wait until DD asks to have her own room, she has started cottoning on that other kids have their own room when we go and visit her friends houses and i always ask her if she wants one for herself. When she gets a little older i will set up a beautiful bedroom for her to try and entice her in, but at the moment i like having her there too! I think DS is more likely to want his own room before DD, hahaha

[MummaSue]

There is a great book called the No Cry Sleep Solution that has lovely gentle ways to transition babies and toddlers!

Sue xxxxx

[boomba]

We still co sleep with my DS1 who is 3 but Dh is shift worker so he leaves at midnight so there is always lots of room for the boys and I :P

When we moved DS1 inot his own room...yes he did sleep in there for a while till DS2 came along...we put his toddler bed next to ours and did it very slowly...once he was happy to go to sleep in the toddler bed and wasnt waking I didnt make a fuss and just moved the bed inot his room and he was happy to sleep in there But I always go on the rule that if they want to come back and lseep let them...they are only little for such a short time and I want all the cuddles I can get

Good luck xxxx

[sloane]

i would have said that co-sleeping is far more 'traditional' than mum & dad in together & baby off at the other end of the house!

just wanted to let you know that we're co-sleepers as well. DS & i were in the big bed to start with but after a while i felt guilty that DP was in the spare room now DS & i share a mattress on the floor in DS' room & DP is back in the big bed. when DS seems ready, we'll convert his cot to a toddler bed & i will slowly move out of the room. i hope it's quite soon because i am a little over the sleeping on the floor on a small matress but i do feel like i've had the most beautiful opportunity to bond with my baby.

i think the idea of having the toddler bed in your room is a great one. there's no hurry really, is there? i was talking to my hairdresser about co-sleeping & (even though she doesn't have kids) she said she doesn't know of any one of her friends that hasn't co-slept with their children at some point. and she reckoned that the ones with two often had dad in with one & mum with the other

[Softy]

Thanks for the replies it's FANTASTIC to have so many reply that they are co-sleeping as well and cherish the times while our little ones are little.

She doesn't sleep through the night But wakes for milk top ups in her sippy cup 1-2 times a night...I know she shouldn't and I'm slowly cutting down the amount....just can't quite deal with a 2 year old tanty at 1 or 2am IYFWIM!!

Good to know Sloane that you sleep on a mattress on the floor in DS room this is exactly what I've been thinking of doing. We have done it twice before where DD actually went to sleep in her toddler bed but when she woke came onto the floor with me which I didn't mind cause lets face it they're soooo cute! Think I will go back to that strategy and keep at it this time so poor DP can go back to the bed. And slowly as she gets used to the idea I'll move further away.

Think DP gets frustrated as he doesn't have the same bond as me and DD and also think he might want another bub so in a way we each kinda have one and he doesn't see that happening if I'm still sleeping with DD but as you Boomba and others have said you can co-sleep with more than one, I guess it's just a juggle to make sure everyone gets some of your attention and nobody feels left out....I think DP has been feeling a bit left out Thanks again everyone for your advice & support I really appreciate it

[onthefly]

Bah! Lots of people sleep with their kids.
If you or your DD are uncomfortable with the transition, a half-way measure like pushing beds together or a mattress on the floor might be one way to go.
I slept on mattress on the floor with DS for aaaages. Then after his sleep started to settle down and he began to be able to sleep alone, we switched him to a single bed. Aside from falling out once or twice, he's been fine in there unless sick (when he comes back to bed with me). We still spend time getting him to sleep in the night, but it works pretty well.

Just give the gradually moving away approach a try and see how you go. You'll find out soon enough whether she's ready for it or not.

As for your DP - maybe try and set aside some special couple time too? Doesn't even have to be in bed.