Oh Ingrid, you poor love.

Parenting choices, competitive mothers groups and dealing with your own baby: it makes for v.tough mental work!

To my mind, whichever parenting style a mother chooses, as long as she is confident in herself that it is right for her and her baby, and doesn't ever judge, that is what you need around you.

My Mothers Group in Darwin was a very mixed group of Mums, and a mixed bag of parenting styles, & a very mixed arena of income/socio-economic situation. (One or two show homes, one or two renovators delights, and everything in bwtween).

The interesting thing is that whilst we have all now gone our separate ways (moved interstate), there are about 6 of us (from the original 12) who keep in close touch (via phone and email) & are all the ones that are utterly confident in our choices and never judge each other. The ones that were keen to judge or snipe behind backs or tried to compete in anyway are the ones that have fallen by the wayside.

So, I think you are doing a great job, and as long as you are confident and happy in what you are going for Maggie, that is what is important. Stick to your guns, and if the mothers group is not making you happy, walk away..........