Sometimes I wish I could say "I'll tell you where you can put your rod..." The way I see it, it's my back and my rod and I will do with it what I want. I've been lucky I guess that I haven't ever had much trouble with people offering 'advice' but the biggest one was about letting them cry - whether it be for sleep or just crying in general and I'd get the 'no one ever died from crying' - pfft to them - who wants to prove that one right?