I've adopted a policy of zero tolerance!
LOL Fiona!! I guess that from growing up in a single mother household, I learnt that the man had better be good or you are better off without him! Fortunately for me I struck gold on my first try. I have always expected from the earliest days of our relationship that the domestic burden would be equally shared. Ok, so we have our areas that we each specialise in (based on our natural inclinations) but I agree in this day and age there is no excuse for a man who does not pull his weight on the home front - regardless of his partner's current employment status.

ETA I agree Cailin, that the appreciation does go a long way in maintaining enthusiasm - in both directions .