Dealing with the toddler 'NO!'

[Earthmama]

and flounces off.

I love this becasue my DD does exactly the same thing !!! She definitely "flounces" after she said no

I try to expain why I wanteher to do what I want her to do like, " We have to take our pyjamas off because we don't wear our Pyjamas to school do we?" (We call day care "school")

If that fails I do the "options" thing or if I get desperate then the "lose something" thing like " No Shrek today if you don't put your toys away "

I like your suggestions Kaz and I'll try some of those too.

Great question Fleur, hope you get some good options because the big "NO" can be quite a challenge

[Fleur]

Yep, the giving an option has worked a treat with getting dressed. Especially since we have largely moved on from the 'no!' phase and are now in 'I do it!' territory......

Anything that gives her some input or independance is great, atm .

[Winter]

we have largely moved on from the 'no!' phase and are now in 'I do it!' territory......

OMG!! The "I DO IT" territory...we are going through this now. Any ideas on when it's going to end??????????

[Fleur]

Not really! She is much more insistent on doing everything herself than her older siblings were. I mean, we went there, but not like this

Best coping strategy we have found is to always ask her before we do anything for her, that way we avoid most of the meltdowns. It's surprising actually how quickly they learn & pick new skills up. And sometimes if we let her have a go, she realises that she can't. Only occasionally do we have to put our foot down and put up with a tantrum.

And lots of repeating 'this too shall pass'!