I think it comes down to convenience. If there isn't anyone that can form a bond with Kynan in the way that the 3 of you would feel comfortable well its not going to be easy to find someone else to mind him. I do prefer that our children feel comfortable in others care and not just our own. Purely for their own independence, (not everyone agrees with this) but I like the fact that Paris is secure within herself. She is more than happy to tell us if she doesn't want us to go anywhere or if she needs to be with us, but on the opposite side I know I can leave her with other people (whom we trust) and she's comfortable. I think its helped the transition to Kinder, its also helped when there have been emergencies and we've needed her to be minded and she doesn't find the situation distressful, I think if she weren't used to that and something did come up and she found the situation distressful that would be harder for all of us to deal with.

BUT I am talking about my 4 y.o. daughter. I think its slightly different for a 7 mth old baby! I don't think you are doing Kynan any disservice, and I'm sure the older he gets and the more people that come in and out of his life he will find it more comfortable. Also their personalities can come into play alot, my MIL had 5 children and some of her kids were more than happy to be sociable with others and some would only allow her to do anything for them. I think if the situation was detrimental to your relationship with your DH, or Kynans future socialising skills (which I don't think, from what you've described, it is.) then its not a problem.

And just because someone elso may do things differently within their family unit does not make what you do (or they do) wrong it just means this is what works for you, and if it stops working well then you'll know that something needs to change LOL!

Don't worry hon! I think you guys are doing a great job. And just because Kynan doesn't want people in his face lol doesn't mean his suffering because he isn't babysat from time to time He's only 7 mths old

*mwa*
Cailin