Angel - Kelly just mentioned the book I was referring too, it`s a great read.

Anyway here are a couple of quotes from the book:

If at all possible, a boy should stay home with one of his parents until age three.
Many studies have shown that boys are more prone than girls to separation anxiety and to becoming emotionally shut down as a result of feeling abandoned.
Mothers are usually the primary parent but a father can take this place. What matters is that one or two key people love this child and make him central for these few years. That way, he develops inner security for life, and his brain acquires the skills of intimate communication and a love of learning and interaction
These years are soon over. Enjoy your little boy while you can!
Angel - Your doing everything a little boy wants from his Mummy and Daddy, for you to be with him most of the time and show him love and affection, don`t worry about what opinions other people have.

I`m like you I don`t feel like I`ve given up anything for being a Mummy to Matthew but I have been given so much by being a Mummy