We sound so similar. I too am a bit of a drama queen and my DH is so chilled.

DD has alwasy been a super chilled kid, but come sleep time, especially around the 0-5 month mark it HAD to be me and it HAD to be a boob in her mouth.

Urgh! Just remembering those car trips with her SCREAMING makes me tense. She also hated the pram and would scream in that. I used to stare at other children asleep in their prams and think...how do they do it?

BUT. It passed. I can't remember when, but DD now always falls asleep in the car (I think that was about 10 months) and by 8 months she LOVED a new stroller my mum bought (I think she hated my very expensive fandangled pram!)

Anyway. It is so, so normal for attachment-parented babies to do this. Most mums who parent like us, just avoid the car (or use a dummy in the car) and don't even own prams. It might have something to do with the baby's personality, in that, they are super sensitive, and hyper aware of their surroundings and the fact mum isn't holding them.

For people to start pointing the finger at you, and undermining what a great mum you are is not acceptable (and is so, so freakin typical of people who don't understand babies...when in doubt blame it on the mum! Grrr)

you're doing a great job! Your dd is perfect. P.E.R.F.E.C.T!!! Can we help you cope with the sitaution better? Because we're here for you when you need.