oh DD, *hugs* I hear ya. We have had issues with tantrums for seems like years, but really bad ones maybe the past year? We have been going through Triple P stuff and have found that atm with tantrums we try to catch her when they start, so when I say "No" and she protests. I then say "Matilda please use a gentle voice and tell mummy what is wrong" She will usually say "lollie!!!" (or whatever she wants like its the end of the world) and I will say "Matilda, mummy said no before because its dinner xxx blah blah" If she starts again I say "Matilda if you can not use a quiet voice you will have to sit on your chair until you feel like you can again, I understand you are frustrated because I said no." Usually she continues on and I have to pop her on her seat and wait until she calms down... thats if I catch it in time If I don't & she loses it I usually put her in her room and stand in the door until she settles down and then we have a cuddle and talk about what has happened & why she was feeling the way she was.

We have some massive tantrums in this house including vomitting and breath holding. The best thing for me is being consistent & finishing with love & cuddles so that she knows even when she loses it emotionally I am always here for her.