This is such a tough one! I was so adamant that DS wouldn't go into care until at least 9 months (so as not to jeopardise the attachment process). And I wouldn't trade a moment of the time spent at home with him BUT..the angst of putting him into care at 10 months has made me rethink things.. I think for no. 2 I will seriously consider short hours with a quality carer from about 6 months. We've just pulled DS out of FDC and he's now with Grandma 3 days a week 'recovering' from the trauma of it all! His separation anxiety is terrible and he's so jumpy - he's needs to be held every time a plane flies over!