The effect on mothers who had controlled crying as a baby

[meow]

Thanks Ciara.e, I am actually at Uni studying early childhood so I have access to journals- I just don't seem to be able to find the right key words for this study, hence why I was hoping for some more info which I felt a BellyBelly member may have.

It's interesting the effect study has on you- MY study and knowledge of emotional, language and brain development has cntributed to my not wanting to leave my baby cry. I can't imagine what you are studying that makes you feel the opposite. Our Uni's must be sourcing very different material.

Good to hear I'm not the only one on here Roryrory!

[ciara.e]

i guess you take what you want out of inforormation you learn? I'm very aware of overdoing things with young children so as not to create any abandonment type issues... although i'm very conscious of not pulling them in too tight as I believe the consequences of this is just as bad in later life too. That's just one perspective. And you are right, perhaps we learn different material? But i like to think outside the square... some of the greatest theorists developed their theory whilst going against popular belief. My point is, no answer can be wrong in this area. I don't study early childhood, I am studying psychology and criminolgy... some scarey stuff in there and that's probably why we've both developed differring methods and beliefs.

As far as keywords... did the original article have anything about the condition this is supposed to cause in later life? or was it just really basic? I'll access my journal database and see if i can come up with anything.. but again, same problem as you... finding the right keyword. Will see what i come up with though.

As far as parenting is concerned... i just believe that each child is different and they'll react well to the techniques that suit their personality... we're all different after all.. If we take the time to learn to read our babies, well figure it out the right way. Just like me as a baby... i'd just get worse with this method cos i'm too emotional and I needed to be held a bit more... but i'm the only one of my whole family that was in this boat.

Its an interesting subject! Thanks for bringing it up!

[[M]umma[M]ia]

im sure my mum let me cry... and i dont have an issue with DD crying.

[lilima]

My mum never let me cry. She rocked me to sleep every night. I was anxious listening to DS cry, but with DD I seem to be able to tune out.

[Lady-bug]

I would love to know more about the study if you find it.

I don't know it my mum used CC on me I would guess she did.
I've never been able to listen to DS crying it makes me feel very anxious. Even babies I don't know.

[Willow]

No offence intended to those posting, but I think that's a total crock.

I don't think any mother enjoys listening to her baby cry and most would feel anxious.

[Visitor7]

Oh gosh, I hope my post didn't sound like I actually enjoy listening to my babies cry!!! Just to clarify, I don't get anxiety when I hear a baby crying. Certainly doesn't mean I enjoy it either.