The Flower Shop (Why You Should Attachment Parent)

[Kailani]

I have kicked DD out of bed just recently because she is also a bed hog and nibbles (bf) on my boobs all the time which drives me nuts so -boot! into her own bed which she thinks is pretty good too.

DS is constantly sucking all throughout the night - it is sooo annoying! I wake up to feel another fricken let down! I feed him to sleep and often he just does not want to let go, even when he's asleep - he totally uses me as a dummy/pacifier. I honestly must admit, I would much prefer he slept in his cot, for the sake of my sleep and sanity, but only if he was happy to do so. Until then, I am content to let him suck on and off all night and snuggle with me. Actually, you know what kills me the most...having to face him and facing the one side all night! I love sleeping facing the left but I can't because DS constantly wakes for bbs and I have to turn around again!

[Winter]

He just does not want to let go, even when he's asleep - he totally uses me as a dummy/pacifier....Actually, you know what kills me the most...having to face him and facing the one side all night! I love sleeping facing the left but I can't because DS constantly wakes for bbs and I have to turn around again!

In the end I would let DD feed for a reasonable time, then I would roll over and say "that's enough darling, you've had a drink". She would fuss for a bit and then go back to sleep. Wearing a tshirt helped so I could cover my boobs and prevent access. And I tried to think of the little feet kicking me in the back as a massage! I still pull DD into my bed in the mornings so that we are having some gorgeous snuggles, I couldn't go cold turkey, I would miss her toooooo much!

[suse]

Holly, I would recommend you read Jay Gordon's other work - his suggestions on night weaning are geared for co-sleepers. Might help you to night wean without giving up co-sleeping, if that's what you want to do.

[Kailani]

And I tried to think of the little feet kicking me in the back as a massage!

That is hilarious! That is exactly what I do in the mornings when he wakes up and I'm still too sleepy: I roll over and let him kick and squirm and think of it as a massage

Suse thanks for the rec, I will definitely look out for the book. It would be a dream to get my sleep back

Well I am just glad I'm not the only one, and I'm not a "foolish" mother "spoiling" her baby! (so my mother and grandma keep telling me)...

[Persephone1]

Thanks Ladies, I'm feeling more and more confident that whatever we do, it'll be based on instinct and intuition and whatever works for us. I won't be feeling guilty about lots of snuggles if that's what feels right! And now...actually looking forward to it...bring on the AP!

[Lolli]

What a nice thread Thanks for posting that Heaven

I've been thinking the last couple of days, as ds has just turned two- it was all worth it. Those months where we awake and feeding around the clock and the only advice anyone could give me was to 'let him cry'- it was worth it not to. I now have a secure, happy, friendly, attached but indpendant little man- and I credit that to AP

[suse]

Suse thanks for the rec, I will definitely look out for the book. It would be a dream to get my sleep back

Just google it hon - all the info you need is on his website