It's a tough one. I think it's something you discuss if it comes up, you know. This is what we do.. I read this interesting thing... and that's why...
Oh, I read this great book... it's really helped me. Or something like that maybe? Some people will take it for what it is, but some will get defensive and take it as a personal attack. I guess you just have to judge your audience.
As for that mother in your MG. I wonder, perhaps she only waited so long because people were there. Maybe she wouldn't normally have left him so long, but she was worried about being judged as too soft, or whatever. I think we all worry overly about what others might think. It's a shame, isn't it?
Tough one. I know I struggle to listen to it when it has happened around me. I think it depends on the mum, I have been attacked in the past for my parenting from some mg mums, so for those type I would say something. If the person is genuinely nice, it might be something I casually bring up at a later date. If DH is around, well, he just tells them straight exactly what he thinks of it.
Unfortunately some people will do things the way that they want. YOu could point her in the direction of BB or other online forums for some great tips on sleeping, etc but you would have to do it a gentle way so that she doesnt feel that you think there is a problem.
I think that if you were to come across even concerned then she could get all defensive and it cause a rift in mothers grp. I would just make a casual statement like I found this great online forum site where I get so many great tips from mums and professionals about sleep, feeding, and all the other things that go on with parenting.
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