yeoww, I'm so sorry, I can hear your stress! Geesh, I'm stressed and I've only got one littlie!

I'm sure there are many with much more useful advice than me - just on the anger factor though, I have just read "Buddhism for mothers, a calm approach to mothering" which has made a HUGE difference for me tapping into CALMNESS in the insanity and dead set frustration.

Truly, it has changed everything and I recommend it to everyone

ANyway GBH from me, I hope you get some great suggestions on here.