Thank you all for the messages of support, I managed to get a good nights sleep which while not making much difference to the situation in general has greatly increased my moral!! Most of the problems/disagreements/whatever you want to call them are ongoing and have been an issue. We have generally disagreed on everything, even before we had kids!! Which begs the question.....but I won't go there. He was home from work today, and insisted on putting a Bob DVD on one TV and Nemo on the other, so that our nearly 2 year old would have a choice! But today it didn't cause a meltdown, I just kept going backwards and forwards switching them off, we played tag for about 3 hours, and finally when he realised that I had DS2 happily doing playdo he turned them both onto normal TV for himself. I actually found myself laughing at it!! I know the junkfood doens't help, and the wii and the TV, I can really only work on minimizing! I just have to take charge more, which some days I am better at than others!! But THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU to everyone for the posts that reminded me that I am not just a mean crazy whining nutbag!!
Oh, and cutting on the midday sleep and putting him to bed earlier has helped, we have a cranky couple of hours, but he is in bed and asleep by 7ish leaving me plenty of time to get my older one in at a reasonable time! Little battles win the war!!!!!
Thanks again,
Kate