'Kids have to learn to sleep though noise'

[Heaven]

Am I the only one who doesn't agree with this?

I don't expect total silence when my kids are napping when I'm at someone else's house of course. But some common courtesy would be nice. Maybe not standing outside their room yelling to people across the other side of the house? Or having the radio on loud right outside their room?

People wouldn't do that when an adult was sleeping. No way. But children are just less important I guess

[Doing my best]

I get that as well.. Even in our own home people will shut doors loudly, tv on loud, and it peeves me off!

Thankfully mine sleep really soundly through noise, but it wouldn't hurt for some quieter time until they get to sleep..

[Phteven]

It certainly makes life easier for everyone if they do. I don't really expect that other people should be inconvenienced by my children's bedtime.
We're on holidays with my family at the moment. I can just put my boys to sleep in a spare bed/sofa wherever we are and they will go to sleep. Same with my cousin's children. My evenings are simpler than my SILS' who need quiet for bedtime.
Even if your family are all quiet for bedtime you will find that hotels, campsites etc can often be unexpectedly noisy.
When my boys were babies I vacuumed, talked on the phone, watched tv and other noisy stuff while they slept. I have never had cause to regret it. On the contrary, I'm quite glad my children are used to sleeping through noise.

[Rouge]

I'm in between.

Being a light sleeper sucks. A lot. I hate it. I can't sleep anywhere. I can't sleep in a bright room etc. so when my kids were babies I never made a fuss. I took them to parties. They slept in their rooms during the day with ample light.

They both sleep now like their father. Anywhere. Anyhow. And I'm grateful. Because being me. Sucks.

So for me it was never about them inconveniencing me with their sleep. But me not setting them up to have sleeping difficulties like me.

[Charlotte91]

DD likes to sleep in the dark and quiet.

DS sleeps with noise and I don't even shut his curtains during the day.

Each kid is different.

But yes, I think people should have some respect when it comes to sleeping kids.

[Artechim]

In the rare occasions that I have had my kids asleep in shared accommodation I like to remind the yeller of my rule that if they wake the kid then they have to deal with that grumpy, tired kid for the rest of the day. It isn't like you are expecting total silence, just but a bit of courtesy.

When DS was born I was totally going to make all kinds of noise while he slept so he got used to sleeping around noise and wasn't a light sleeper like me. That lasted all of a couple of weeks when every sound woke him and I couldn't get him back to sleep. I pretty much didn't move while he was sleeping because he would wake up. No use trying to desensitise him to it if he was awake after 3 seconds every time. I remember trying to pack to move house and he would wake up every single time I tried to tape up a box with packing tape at the other end of the house!.

[lilima]

I am with Rouge. I am a terrible sleeper. I am exactly the same. My kids are well used to noise, and sleep better now if they can hear us. I was recently away with a 9 month old. Her parents made us sit in silence every evening and sleep time. It was terrible and we won't go away with them again. We ended up sitting outside in the rain with our kids as they said they were too noisy.

[~ Zarava Flutterby ~]

It depends on the child, I used to have the radio on or vac around my girls while they slept in the basinette.

I didn't agree with people yelling and would ask DD1 to be quiet if DD2 was sleeping but otherwise I was ok with noise.

[Heaven]

Yep agree with you all and my kids do sleep through noise. Luckily because otherwise they would have had no sleep these holidays. General background noise they will sleep through no problem but sudden loud noises near them can wake them up, like everyone I guess.

What annoys me though is just people's view of children (in my family anyway). That they're 'just' kids. Not as important as adults and don't deserve the same amount of respect. Totally opposite to how I feel.

[jellybean88]

I was told that and I did that I had vacuum and tv going and talking and ds would sleep anywhere but since 6 months he has needed a quiet place to sleep so for me it made no difference

[Chocaholic]

I agree that common courtesy should be in play (i.e. no yelling). However I also used to vacuum and clean around them when they were younger as that was the only time I could do it.

My oldest is not a great sleeper. At 6, we still co-sleep as he needs someone to touch during the night. I will often get a hand on my arm or face during the night. If he doesn't feel me (or someone), then he wakes up. However, he will sleep through noise.

My youngest can sleep through anything including a fire engine using our driveway to turn around with lights and sirens blasting away.

Children deserve as much respect as everyone else and are never "just" anything.

[shellbell3]

I can see where you're coming from. I didn't expect total silence for my kids but just respectful not to scream and shout outside there room. Like u said who would do that if they knew an adult was in there.
I'm such a light sleeper I would slap someone screaming outside my door!

[onthefly]

It's a difficult attitude to get past, yeah.

[nickle730]

I think it is fair to expect people to not be deliberately noisy when your kids are sleeping, but it is unreasonable to expect them not to make normal noise because your kids have gone to bed. So no yelling outside the door to their room, but the telly on at normal volume is fine, as is having a conversation at normal volume. I would not expect any different if the person sleeping was an adult.

[Butterfly Dawn]

I am with Rouge. I am a terrible sleeper. I am exactly the same. My kids are well used to noise, and sleep better now if they can hear us. I was recently away with a 9 month old. Her parents made us sit in silence every evening and sleep time. It was terrible and we won't go away with them again. We ended up sitting outside in the rain with our kids as they said they were too noisy.

woooow! that's not cool. I wouldn't be going away with them again either!

[Rouge]

What annoys me though is just people's view of children (in my family anyway). That they're 'just' kids. Not as important as adults and don't deserve the same amount of respect. Totally opposite to how I feel.

Oh yes. That annoys me to no end. And not just with regards to sleeping. Heaven help anyone who says that about my kids in my presence

[AndiE]

Kids are as important than adults! They certainly deserve respect given they are human beings ... albeit small, often noisy ones.

That being said, I do actually think it's good for a baby to get used to some level of noise. In our house there's not much choice as I have two older, boisterous, loud boys. who quite honestly don't care much about being quiet if DS3 is asleep (despite their mother pulling her hair out that they won't quieten down!). Poor DS3 wouldn't get to sleep much beyond 20 mins if he couldn't sleep through noise. But, as others have said - courtesy doesn't go astray, particularly from adults. No point in loud talking, banging doors etc unnecessarily near a sleeping bub/child.

[bubno.3]

Well i reckon your house your kids your sanity YOUR RULES.... if you want you baby/toddler/child to sleep and you know they can only do that with limited noise well so be it and that is what the child will get .... I have been known to be very anal when it comes to my childrens sleep so i have locked the front door and opened the back gate for people to come thru that that thru the house which is small so any new noise would be heard. ... after saying that normal noise is left on like the radio/music and me doing the dishes washing dryer etc etc