Ok so some of you may be well aware of all that is going on right now... so much and i know i am struggling to get my head and heart around alot of it, i dont doubt it would be even harder for DD.

But, regardless, she is playing up big time. Tantrums bigger than we have ever dealt with, Toileting issue's, general nastiness and being rude that is just not like her. She is normally a very polite, gorgeous caring little girl.

So im just really struggling with how to handle this behaviour.

Right now, i feel all DF and i are doing is yelling or smacking her and i hate hate hate hate it.

Usually she is very easy to reason with, but atm it is far from working.

The second i say no to something she requests or wants, she screams so loud you CAN hear it from the road, she throws herself around, she starts being mean to either me or DF or her brother... by saying "your not my friend anymore" "i don't like you" or mimicking how we have been disciplining her by threatening her, or taking somthing away or whatever....

Nothing i or DF are doing right now is working, so please, help me, help us... what are some strategies i can use right now???

I HATE HATE smacking her as i KNOW it doesn't DO anything, and i'm so sick of yelling at her. I am so sick of loosing my cool with her, which is just happening SO MUCH of late...... life cant be very nice with parents like us right now, but as much as i hate to say it, life is far from nice with how she is behaving (however, i realise she is the child and i am the parent, but how she acts does still have a factor in our life too)

After i have smacked, or yelled at her, i feel just horrid to the core. I feel this immense sense of guilt its just not funny... i am even stretched so thin i think, today when she was having one of her tanties, she said "go away" to me and somthing else that wasnt nice, and i replied "ok i will, i will go away and i wont come back"

Well of course she was a mess and said no no no i dont like that.... i feel like a really bad parent for even thinking about saying that to her, let alone actually saying it. I mean FGS! Is there soemthing wrong with me? as a parent? am i actually a bad mum? I am struggling to keep my cool with her.... and im not handling it very well when i dont


Anyone have any advice or tips for us please??