How do i do this?

[Heaven]

Oh BG I know exactly what you mean!! I think I wrote a post on it myself! It has stopped now! When I would tell her know she would act like I'd just broke her heart! Not a cranky 'I wanted to play with that' cry but a real sad, lip shaking one Poor little thing. She's stopped doing that now. I think it was just a phase and now she knows what 'No' means and that it doesn't mean I am angry at her but that she can't do something. Doesn't mean she obey's though, LOL. Now she does something she's not supposed to and looks at me and shakes her head 'no' LOL.

[MummyTummy]

I think Pinky McKay has something in her toddler tactics book about children knowing what no means and even shaking their head while doing exactly what they shouldn't be doing. DS does the same occasionally - it is an impulse that they haven't yet learned how to control.

BG, I completely understand about the heater. That's where I worry about our oven - and ours is on the wall - just not high enough to be out of reach!! Can you perhaps get a guard for it? Then you can teach her about not touching the guard etc, but know that she can't reach the heater itself?

I don't know about the perspex covers for the TV cabinet. Can you take the door off temporarily and remove the contents? Once she is walking you can put it back on. It surely won't look any messier than a perspex screen in front of the cabinet? Is it electrical equipment in the cupboard or just things? If you are worried about air flow in another cupboard you could take the back off the cabinet or cut a large hole out of the back (it can be done neatly too!). This should allow sufficient airflow.

[onthefly]

Yeah, I think with the dangerous things some sort of barrier is probably a good way to go.

[Lenny]

Hey BG,
Loads of great advice here already. I think you can get those perspex things from Ikea...Not that there's one near you (or me!) but maybe someone can get one if they are passing through.

We gave DS1 his own cupboard in the kitchen and only kiddie locked the dishwash liquid etc.

I think there are somethings that you can persevere with and tell them no etc, but there are a few things that sometimes you just have to put a barrier up or lock away, or put up high. Just for your own peace of mind.

BTW - where do they learn that cry!! It really makes you feel awful!!

[Oorki Galoorki]

NO is a word used in so many ways for adults it can be confusing to children.. can you say STOP to get her attention and then say the cabinet is not for EM then move her, Stop is a direct word. it means exactly that.. No can be no dont go nea.r no not now, no in a minute, No i want you to XYZ.

but i think your on the right track and it can take a while for them to "get It" but they will, my 2 have things they Know are definate do not touch or i can if im careful or its mine and i make the rules about my property.

[Heaven]

I think Pinky McKay has something in her toddler tactics book about children knowing what no means and even shaking their head while doing exactly what they shouldn't be doing. DS does the same occasionally - it is an impulse that they haven't yet learned how to control.

I am reading this book atm and came back to this thread bc I just read that part!!
It says that although at age 1 babies might know what the word 'No' means their brains haven't developed the impulse control yet to actually be able to stop themselves. So that's why my DD will touch something she's not allowed to and look at me and shake her head. Not until they're closer to 2 yrs do they have the impulse control to be able to stop themselves. So keep trying to teach her but also baby-proof the dangerous things

[Miss E]

Just wanted to pop in say we're going through a similar thing at the moment. I really don't want to be one of those parents who is constantly saying 'no' either. As a result I've just been moving him away from things and trying to distract him and trying to save 'no' for awhile yet. But I think I'm going to start using 'stop', it's a lot more direct, thanks Oorki!