Im just after a little bit of advice. I didnt co sleep with my first little man. I co slept with my 2nd until 12 months old and my 3rd little man is 13 months and flat out REFUSES to sleep in the cot. Ive tried putting him in it and he just wakes up and screams hysterically. If I put him in my bed he just take a deep breath and goes straight to sleep. My hubby and I are a bit over the kicks in the head and the disturbed sleep every night as Joshie seems to be a bit of a restless sleeper.
I was just interested in knowing how long people have co slept with their little ones for and how did you make the change to a bed/cot?.
Would I be better off having a single bed in my room with a bed rail?. Maybe he feels a bit clostrophbic in a cot with all the bars and he isnt used to that?.
DS hasn't always co slept with us. He did for the first 2 weeks of his life as it was the only way he would sleep at night. He has slept in our bed on and off over the years, but now at age 2 and a half, he co sleeps again as its the only way he will sleep through the night and we'd rather he slept with us than get bugger all sleep
We co slept till she was 8 months, and only really stopped because she'd learnt to crawl by then and oulw wake up and craawl all through the bed and climb on my face.
Could you maybe try putting a mattress on the floor for him? or a bed with a rail?
When our babies were newborn they mainly slept in cradles (small cots) beside my side of the bed... and co-slept in with me when I BF them or if they needed "warming up" in winter.
By the time my first two children reached about 3yo they developed preferences for their own space...actually my older DS developed this earlier... probably by about 2yo... and to this day (he is now 5yo) he has been an excellent sleeper... demanding to go to bed at 7pm and that's the last you see of him until the morning. I accredit this to co-sleeping when he was a baby. We didn't co-sleep as much with our first child and she was forever coming into our bedroom in the middle of the night until she was about 4yo. I really think co-sleeping makes them feel more secure from an early age. I wish i had given my first child that security instead of subscribing to the SIDS propaganda (back in 1994 when she was a baby co-sleeping wasn't endorsed at all)... I really think she would have grown up more secure like my boys.
ATM we have just transferred our youngest from his cot into a big bed. He has adapted very well.... DH organised all this when I was on holidays with my middle child.... by the time I got back our youngest was sleeping in the big bed. I thought there would have been more roaming at night but there hasn't been... pleasantly surprised.
If I was you I'd try setting up a temporary extra bed in your room.... maybe a futon roll on the floor next to your main bed. Maybe start the night sleeping down there with your child... then, when he is asleep, pop back up into your bed and see how he goes. We did this for a while in summer when it was just too hot for us all to co-sleep.
ETA: My post reads as a bit confusing LOL we actually do a combination of co-sleeping and cot sleeping... whatever they seem to need until they develop a preference for their own space. Usually each night starts off in their cot and I brought them in when they woke up for the first time... usually at about 2/3am and then we would co-sleep from that point onward.
Last edited by Bathsheba; November 7th, 2008 at 11:48 AM.
DD is still going strong at 2.5, goes down in her bed and climbs in sometime during the night, and DS4 wanders in occasionally.
I llurrrrve it - but its alot easier for me, Dp sleeps on the couch and has done so since DS was a few months old ! Tee Hee! It's not for everyone though
one of my girlfriends had the same trouble with her little man so they started sleeping on the cot mattress on the floor they did this for a few weeks and he then moved into a "big Boy" bed and pretty much sleeps through. He was about the same age as your baby when he started refusing the cot. Good luck
My DD is 14 months and i'm still co-sleeping with her. I think the problem is that bubies just love sleeping with us so much that whenever we move them out, they have trouble adjusting and just don't understand, or see why they have to. It's horrible when it impedes on your own sleep! I empathize! I have no advice, I tried to move DD out of my bed and it wasn't worth the trouble LOL!
How long did you co-sleep?
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