one of my girlfriends had the same trouble with her little man so they started sleeping on the cot mattress on the floor they did this for a few weeks and he then moved into a "big Boy" bed and pretty much sleeps through. He was about the same age as your baby when he started refusing the cot. Good luck
My DD is 14 months and i'm still co-sleeping with her. I think the problem is that bubies just love sleeping with us so much that whenever we move them out, they have trouble adjusting and just don't understand, or see why they have to. It's horrible when it impedes on your own sleep! I empathize! I have no advice, I tried to move DD out of my bed and it wasn't worth the trouble LOL!
We co-slept with DS1 in our bed for 2 years. He would not sleep unless being held in my arms.
When he was 2 we got a cute bed and put it next to ours in our bedroom, we made a huge fuss about how cool it was and explained that there wasn't enough room in the big bed for all to be comfortable so he'd sleep there. I still held him, he climbed out a bit for a few days but eventually thought it was cool. Then we started explaining that we'd move it in to his room and we had to do that quickly because the newborn in our room kept waking him up. So we moved the bed and he was a little confused the first couple of nights but i just went in and lay with him until he fell back to sleep. So then he was fine with it... most nights he wakes up once and walks to our room, i just walk back with him, give him a breastfeed and come back to our bed.
SO basically we skipped the cot stage altogether, which worked for us.
DS co-slept until about 10m, when he started to demand to sleep alone. If he's teething or really ill he still comes in with me, last month was the last time we slept together. (TBH, he kicks me and DH out the bed so we're quite happy he doesn't co-sleep much LOL.)
wow. Sorry to thread hijack but what does it mean your 10 mth old wanted to sleep on their own? (I'm wondering about my own...?)
How did you end up moving them/transitioning to the cot?
MummaBear, I love your post! Firstly, I can relate!! I have posted MANY TIMES asking for advice on cot sleeping and co-sleeping!
I hope my advice helps you.
My DD co-slept with us until 2 weeks ago. She is now 10 months old.
We were not getting any sleep because of the kicks in the head and feet in our mouths (heehee) so we decided to buy a toddler bed. She hated her cot and what a waste of $500 that was! She never went in it!! She loves her new toddler bed. It is in her own room.
Last week she was fine, I slept in there on a mattress just to do the re-settling process if she woke up. She would settle really quickly. She finds it better on her tummy to sleep and I have an angel care movement monitor for ease of mind.
This week I planned to move back into my own bed but she has been sick with a cold/ear infection so I'm still in there, although I have not once taken her into my bed and she's doing great.
Our DD wouldn't even go in her cot for day sleeps! She would only go in our bed or sleep on me on the lounge. And that was becoming tiring! I would worry she would fall out of my bed all the time and my bum got so sore sitting for an hour or so on the lounge!
She now goes in her toddler bed fine now through day and night. She will wake at night twice but re-settle quickly. I have no hesitation to bring her in with us if she won't settle though, don't like controlled crying.
I really hope this has helped you. Maybe try her in a toddler bed. I am sure DD just likes the extra room. Someone mentioned to me that when I stirred through the night, it would wake her up and that's why she was so unsettled sleeping in our bed, but who knows.
One more thing, I've started a dreamfeed too again, I had cut it out for a month or so but finding it makes her sleep better. That's an individual thing though and entirely up to Mumma...she seems to love a late bottle when she's half asleep.
Good luck with everything, let me know how you go.
I stopped feeding DS at night when he stopped feeding to sleep. Two weeks later when he woke up, I picked him up, my bed, pat to sleep - no dice. Screamed at me instead. So I put him in his bed and patted - back to sleep. Happened a few times. Now he screams blue murder if I get in his bed or try to put him in mine - or he assumes it’s playtime. Not good. When he’s really in pain he snuggles into me and goes back to sleep (I have to pick him up and cuddle him because he’s so upset) so I take him to bed with me and we sleep fine for the rest of the night. But that’s not common; he prefers to be on his own now usually.
DS always started the night in his bed, alone, just so DH and I could get some us-time before we went to bed and he’s so wriggly he would have fallen out of our bed if we’d put him to bed there.
Transitioning. For the first 6m DS was in a moses basket in our room. Then we went on holiday to my mum’s house, cot in our room. Then when we went home we figured we’ve got him in a cot (he was going to sleep in our arms at that point), keep it up. So DS and I moved into the Nursery and DH moved back into our room. When he stopped co-sleeping I started sleeping in the sitting room with the monitor, then after Christmas (we were at my mum’s again and so DH and I had to sleep together due to space) I moved back into our bedroom.
DS has a cot-bed and we’ll be taking the bars down… maybe Easterish. When we KNOW he’s sleeping through properly (so maybe earlier) and so he can get out of bed in the morning and not wake us up. He’s trying to climb INTO bed at night now; he never tries to climb out! We don’t want to do it right now as when we visit Mum she has a cot so that won’t work, but it will have to be before Easter really because then he’ll be too big for her cot and so will be in a bed at her house, we want that OK and normal before we visit. So around his second birthday I suppose.
We got DS a race car bed when he was about 13 mths & it had become difficult for me to feed him to sleep and then put him in the cot. He hated the cot since he started childcare at 11mths and would only sleep there if he wasn't awake when he was put in it.
Now he's welcome to come into our room if he wakes but he mostly sleeps all night in his bed. We lie down with him in his bed while he goes to sleep (in theory - tonight I was there an hour and DH has been in there about 20mins so far...)
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