I have been putting the candle at the door way of the boys room at night for an hour as we have been finding it sooths and calms Wilhelm which he had hoped was helping go to sleep nice and early (9.30 instead of 11 -12).
Anyway..tonight I thought id put it about 1m in from the door inthe middle of the room as both boys were in there and they had gained our trust plus being almost 8 and 10 youd think we'd be alright.
Pftt
Both boys come out here looking guilty as sin. N starts with his...but but but.
W had gotten a tissue and decided to burn it over the candle
Walking up the hall way the smell hit us. no smoke just smell.
I asked who did it....W said he did.
Asked what happened and if he knew what could have happened.
yes...he could have burnt the house down
To which I added with all of us in it.
I didnt yell, I didnt go mental. I asked N if he was involved and said he didnt have to lie cause if he was it would be worse.
He answered no.
Asked why he didnt get us.....he didnt know.
W piped up and said he was smacking the flames out.
Told W he is NOT going lego shopping with the school and careers on tuesday as what he did was very dangerous and stupid to do and if he was going to do naughty and silly stuff like this then he would miss out on things he would enjoy. Poor N was almost crying. I told him that he should have called us or atleast hit the wall for us to hear but perhaps next time he should do that first.
I walked out feeling so sick to my stomach. All I wanted to do was shake the living pooh out of W for being so stupid yet I could see his why in his brain he would have done it.
God that kid is sending me silly. Jed and I said that if we would have done that as children we would have coped a 'flogging'....what for?
Im finding words and other actions far more helpful then hurting my hand
thats awesome maz u held ur composure so well i hope i can be that good a parent when my boy gets to that age i think that will definately make them think twice about doing something that dangerous again well done xoxoxox
MAZ! That must have scared you!
when I was younger (alot younger!) probably about the same age as your boys, I did something similar, ended up burning a big hole in the carpet My parents called in the Fireys to talk to me, not just me, but the kids next door and all my brothers too....scared the living **** outa me. much better than a walloping would have!
oh god Maz. LOL trust the boys. Chase was playing with a lighter the other week, found one of his toys melted, asked who did it and he said it wasn't him, Jaidan told me it was. I wasn't happy either.
Well done Maz! You did such an awesome job! The firies do have a program for kids who light fires but I know with Xander the bigger deal I make of something the more risk it becomes a new obcession I think you handled it so well, calm and low key and I'm guessing the consequence = very effective :-)
heres hoping not something you have to deal with again
oh the firies you say Sarah and stary. Might give them a call and see if I can organise something, even if its me just going down there so one of them can have a chat to the boys.
Leesa - you know me to well dear. Yes have bought some from ebay BUT have found something even better. I went about got one of the gardern solar lights and bought it inside. The room has a nice glow about it and the sun made it
I can see why he did it....his brain would have been ticking over 1000 times over about it.
We left a note in his communication book (its been found ) that he is NOT to go to the lego shopping tomorrow and rang his teacher quickly, who agreed that it was a good punishment for doing what he did. I still feel about it and I know I shouldnt but I feel terrible he cant go tomorrow because he has been looking forward to this for 2 weeks. BUT I have to pull my big girl panties up and stick to my guns.
Thank you all for your reassuring words. I thought that perhaps I had done things wrong and gone a bit overboard wth just tlaking to him about it but I can see how much more effective it has been.
Last edited by maz; December 14th, 2009 at 07:48 AM.
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thats awesome maz u held ur composure so well i hope i can be that good a parent when my boy gets to that age 
i think that will definately make them think twice about doing something that dangerous again well done xoxoxox
My parents called in the Fireys to talk to me, not just me, but the kids next door and all my brothers too....scared the living **** outa me. much better than a walloping would have!
I think you handled it so well, calm and low key and I'm guessing the consequence = very effective :-)
heres hoping not something you have to deal with again
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