I have been putting the candle at the door way of the boys room at night for an hour as we have been finding it sooths and calms Wilhelm which he had hoped was helping go to sleep nice and early (9.30 instead of 11 -12).

Anyway..tonight I thought id put it about 1m in from the door inthe middle of the room as both boys were in there and they had gained our trust plus being almost 8 and 10 youd think we'd be alright.

Pftt

Both boys come out here looking guilty as sin. N starts with his...but but but.

W had gotten a tissue and decided to burn it over the candle

Walking up the hall way the smell hit us. no smoke just smell.
I asked who did it....W said he did.
Asked what happened and if he knew what could have happened.
yes...he could have burnt the house down
To which I added with all of us in it.

I didnt yell, I didnt go mental. I asked N if he was involved and said he didnt have to lie cause if he was it would be worse.
He answered no.
Asked why he didnt get us.....he didnt know.
W piped up and said he was smacking the flames out.

Told W he is NOT going lego shopping with the school and careers on tuesday as what he did was very dangerous and stupid to do and if he was going to do naughty and silly stuff like this then he would miss out on things he would enjoy. Poor N was almost crying. I told him that he should have called us or atleast hit the wall for us to hear but perhaps next time he should do that first.

I walked out feeling so sick to my stomach. All I wanted to do was shake the living pooh out of W for being so stupid yet I could see his why in his brain he would have done it.

God that kid is sending me silly. Jed and I said that if we would have done that as children we would have coped a 'flogging'....what for?

Im finding words and other actions far more helpful then hurting my hand