how will we cope? leaving DS overnight

[Rivlas]

You will walk out the door, he may ask after you but then will have a great time.
It's usually the Mum who has a rough time asking all the what, if, where questions while away.
Go and enjoy yourself, yeah, easier said than done, and know when you get home both will be glad to see you even if for different reasons.

[onthefly]

Oh . I haven't done it yet myself (eeep!) but I agree with the others - he'll have a ball with daddy, it's you who'll suffer, if you let yourself!

Even if you're the main carer, he obviously has a good bond with his daddy too and feels safe and secure with him. That's why I'm sure he'll be fine and definately won't be scarred by the experience.

[~clover~]

You will both survive...I promise
Go enjoy yourself. He's used to your DP. He's been there overnight before without any drama's. He won't be scarred for life. If he is, mine would be more than scarred!

[sneakysparkle]

Its normal to be worried, but really - try not to feel guilty - because youre not doing anything wrong!
Even though you are DS's main carer, there is certainly nothing wrong with leaving him with his daddy for a day, in fact it will probably be great bonding time for them
I know its hard the first time you leave them - but try to relax and enjoy yourself
You'll probably cry more than he does, I know I did the first time I left DD#1!

[Lulu]

For a start, there is nothing un-gentle about going out and leaving the boys to it.

The best thing you can do for him is get ready, tell DS you will see him when you get back, hop into the car, beep the horn and wave with a great big grin on your face.

Looking guilty, sad or apprehensive will give the little fella the impression there is something wrong or something to worry about.
Chug down a drink as soon as you can and if you feel a tear or two come, don't let it wreck your makeup .

Ask DH to text you with a report, xp will always text me saying "all asleep and happy" - if you can ask him to do the same it will soothe you a little.

Make sure you have a good time, after all his is with his dad and they really will be fine.

xoxoxo

[Janie]

:yeahthat:

Gotta share the love Lulu!!!

[smiles4u]

..... my sister gave me the greatest advice on this subject, she said " They need to learn to survive without you for whatever given duration and they DO more than you realise, it's a good thing for them to experience it and it gives them a great start in life "

[kelebek]

thanks ladies, I know you are right and I am being irrational to think DS won't survive without me.... I will just have to get over this mummy guilt.

The first time I left him for a few hours were hard and he survived, when I first went back to work he survived and he will survive this. You are all correct it will be good for both my boys

ok now I have that off my chest I can relax a little next weekend