ok so I am after a gentle parenting perspective.

I am going to be leaving DS with dp overnight for the first time ever, it will be about 27 hrs in total (yes I have worked it out to the hours ) DS is just over 20 mnths and I am very much his main carer. In saying this dp is the one who puts DS to bed every night and DS settles very well for dp. DS still wakes 2 - 3 times a night and from the the 2nd wakeup he still has 'boo' and we co-slept. I had a few too many a few weeks ago and dp steped upto the plate and had to look after DS overnight (dp gave DS milk and co-slept) and they both seemed to cope very well with this

I know it isn't uncommon for people to leave thier kids overnight and he will be with his dad but now it is getting closer I am starting to suffer from mummy guilt and feel like I am a bad mum for even considering going away for the night. They will be fine without me won't they? what if I break the trust we have?

it isn't like I can come home in 10 mins, I will be over 2 hr drive from home and I don't drive so dp would have to come and get me if they really aren't coping...

So from a gentle parenting perspective what age is old enough to leave them overnight when you are their main carer? I don't want to scar him for life or anything....