Leaving your baby in day care - how do you get through it?

[Panda74]

Took DS to FDC this morning (we will take him out but in the mean time he can't stay home by himself!). He cried when he saw the carer and screamed when we left. This is a boy who has never been a cryer so it was hard to see. After 4 hours I got a call to come get him, he hadn't settled, eaten or drank his milk (had some water) or slept. So tomorrow I'm off to work again at 8am .. The carer said to try again tomorrow but I don't know..

DS' Grandma has just offered to drive up (she's 4 hours away) and live in Brisbane part time for a few months she is so worried about him. Shall I take her up on the offer? While she'll struggle at nap time (who am I kidding - he won't sleep for her at all!) and I'll be worried about what mayhem will ensue with DS and Grandma alone I know that they'll have fun together.

Just worried about the chopping and changing for DS. We settled him to day care fairly gently (that paid off well!) and will have to settle him into somewhere else soon and in the mean time get him used to Grandma looking after him.. I've never left him with ANYONE except this carer.

My head is spinning!

[BrightSparkles]

Took DS to FDC this morning (we will take him out but in the mean time he can't stay home by himself!). He cried when he saw the carer and screamed when we left. This is a boy who has never been a cryer so it was hard to see. After 4 hours I got a call to come get him, he hadn't settled, eaten or drank or slept. So tomorrow I'm off to work again at 8am .. The carer said to try again tomorrow but I don't know..

DS' Grandma has just offered to drive up (she's 4 hours away) and live in Brisbane part time for a few months she is so worried about him. Shall I take her up on the offer? While she'll struggle at nap time (who am I kidding - he won't sleep for her at all!) and I'll be worried about what mayhem will ensue with DS and Grandma alone I know that they'll have fun together.

Just worried about the chopping and changing for DS. We settled him to day care fairly gently (that paid off well!) and will have to settle him into somewhere else soon and in the mean time get him used to Grandma looking after him.. I've never left him with ANYONE except this carer.

My head is spinning!

Personally, if it were me, i'd take her up on the offer.

[Daffodil Mumma]

If it were me I would take Grandma up on the offer...especially if it means your DS will be in his own home while youre at work. That way your not having to continue at the FDC while finding another place for him. And being at home with Grandma he isnt having to re-adjust to new surrounding just to have it change again.
Like the other ladies have said go with your gut....and what I have learnt very quickly is when it comes to your baby there is no such thing as too many questions!!!
Goodluck

[Ginger]

i would definitely take grandma's offer. Being one on one with a family member who loves him is a great scenerio i think. Definitely do it, it will be beneficial for both of them- lots of grandma cuddles and love...aawwww

[Rowellen]

i would definitely take grandma's offer. Being one on one with a family member who loves him is a great scenerio i think. Definitely do it, it will be beneficial for both of them- lots of grandma cuddles and love...aawwww

:yeahthat: Grandma's are great for cuddles & cuddles are great for babies

[Panda74]

Grandma is on her way. Have phoned work and day care to advise I'm home cuddling my boy today! Work was very sympathetic (not!!). WIll have to do damage control there as well.

DS has barely been off my boob since midday yesterday

Thankyou all so much. I'm confident I've made the right decision.

[Rowellen]

I'm sure you made the right decision too! Enjoy your baby cuddles today. I hope your work is understanding.