Leaving your baby in day care - how do you get through it?

[Panda74]

Took DS to FDC this morning (we will take him out but in the mean time he can't stay home by himself!). He cried when he saw the carer and screamed when we left. This is a boy who has never been a cryer so it was hard to see. After 4 hours I got a call to come get him, he hadn't settled, eaten or drank his milk (had some water) or slept. So tomorrow I'm off to work again at 8am .. The carer said to try again tomorrow but I don't know..

DS' Grandma has just offered to drive up (she's 4 hours away) and live in Brisbane part time for a few months she is so worried about him. Shall I take her up on the offer? While she'll struggle at nap time (who am I kidding - he won't sleep for her at all!) and I'll be worried about what mayhem will ensue with DS and Grandma alone I know that they'll have fun together.

Just worried about the chopping and changing for DS. We settled him to day care fairly gently (that paid off well!) and will have to settle him into somewhere else soon and in the mean time get him used to Grandma looking after him.. I've never left him with ANYONE except this carer.

My head is spinning!