Hi, we are having a few "issues" at the moment.

Before i make the list, ill just make note that i do completely understand that majority of this behaviour is normal toddler behaviour and i understand that he does these things because he is frustrated etc. I just need a hand how to guide him alonag gently.

1: Head smashing: B likes to smack his head on ANYTHING to get my attention, and generally does it because he isnt getting the cookie he wants or the krispy kreme that he wants etc. Or if he has done something that is a bit questionable... I hate to say it, but i see that he is doing this as a form of manipulation, while i never beleived children KNOW how to maipulate, its somethign that they learn he seems to hurt him self to get my positive kisses and cuddles. Without encouraging this behaviour how do i kurb it? I dotn want to ignore it and he hurt himself.

2: hitting and biting. Tends to do this with other children, he is learnign pretty fast not to hurt mummy. but i worry that he will lash out at his sibling when he comes along. We dont smack in this house (well we try very very very hard not to) so physical discipline is out of the question, i feel he is too young for time out and isolation type punishments, and i really dont like isolating my child from the group. ITs not my style of parenting and i hate doing it.

3: Tantrums... OH MY GOD this kid can chuck a tanty and a half. But its over anything at all. He spends half his day screaming because he doesn tget what he wants. I try to ignore alot of them obviously this is working a treat , but then he goes into the "head smashing" mode. I dont want to spend my days consoling a child that is chucking a hissy fit! i want to play and laugh and tickle how do you deal with the tantrums effectively? Whilst still respecting his need to get the frustrating emotion out.


thanks for any input and advice.
If there are any great books that you could recomend to help me on this path with my beautiful lively toddler please mention them..

Also, i dont want to change his boisterous (sp)heart, i just want to help him learn....