Hi girls
Not sure where to post this.
My 9 month old daughter has bad reflux and screams a lot, day and night, and is typically up screaming for 2-4 hours a night at the moment. We are still trying to sort out the medical side of things but I am absolutely exhausted and keep getting sick (picking up every bug that goes round and then usually mastitis to top it off!)

We don't have any family support and with the hours hubby works he does the best he can to help but he is just not around much. Because she is pretty hard work I don't like to ask friends. I'm ready to hire help eg a mothercraft nurse to give me a break but I want my helper to support gentle parenting techniques - I can't bear the thought of someone not hugging her when she cries.

How do I go about finding someone? All the ads I've seen are for people who push routines and "controlling" your baby.
Any suggestions much appreciated.