My baby is really unsettled and cries a lot... but it’s ok.

[beckoes]

great post! sounds like your doing a great job!! second...or third time is different! im so much more relaxed, if id been like this with DD1 it would have been so much easier!

[Epacris]

Thanks ladies.

I guess I just wanted to “put it out there” that DS2’s behaviour is well within the realms of “normal”. There’s nothing wrong with him (or me), it’s nothing to do with anything I’ve eaten, nothing is causing it and there is nothing to fix. I’m not going to stress myself out trying every old-wives-tale under the sun only to discover that none of them make any difference.

We’ll just keep cuddling him. I truly think that being relaxed and just accepting who he is at this age and stage is a huge help and why we are coping just fine.

And an extra hug for you MummaSue.

[Arimeh]

Awesome mumma

I'm much more relaxed this time round (even though she does have silent reflux so we had to fix that ) cos I don't find lots of screaming for hours on end too relaxing for me.. LOL

But in general day to day stuff - we rock, cuddle, kiss - LOTS more than I did with DS (poor deprived child...) and if she wants to go in the carrier all day - so be it.

She's 6 weeks old, and I already think its going too quickly!!!

[Epacris]

Mel, I know, I know, If only we knew then what we know now hey....

You can never, ever kiss and cuddle them too much.

[Arimeh]

You can never, ever kiss and cuddle them too much.

Oh I know!!! When DS got home from school last night I showered his face in kisses, and he's just looking at me like I was some kind of freak.. LOL.. then he had a huge smile on his face and was like.. "do it again"..... and again.. and again!!! He loved it.

[Kazbah]

What a great thread. Yes, it's so much easer to accept they are getting used to this world when you're back for a second child (or more).

[Epacris]

If only we knew then what we know now hey....

Mel, and further to this, I’ve thought a few times how sad it is that we’re retiring, just when we seem to have got this whole birth and parenting thing just right.... and after all the hard work our older children have done “breaking us in”.

Mate, your signature, I LOVE it, such an inspirational journey of growth and learning.

[Lenny]

it’s nothing to do with anything I’ve eaten

Are you sure? LOL. Gosh i remember wasting hours examining my diet in detail. I should've just 'wasted' time cuddling him. And relaxing. I'm sure he thought there was something up - because mummy seemed so stressed!

[onthefly]

It's funny, because after DS I kinda thought all babies were like that at the start
I'm glad you're chilled about it and enjoying your baby Epacris

[Epacris]

Thanks so much for all your lovely kind comments.

Beema, the feeding yes, so different this time for me too. When our GP was checking him over he said, “So what are his feeding patterns like?” and I said “I have absolutely no idea how often or for how long he feeds. I just feed him when he’s hungry”.

We went to PIL for mothers day lunch today and he was crying and fussing as usual and MIL was carrying him around patting and bouncing him. Then she decided that he was tired and needed to go to sleep and she was going to put him to bed. Anyway, I just sat back and thought, oh well, I’ll just wait and see how this goes (rather than leaping up and snatching him back like I wanted to). Anyway she put him in bed and he screamed the house down for about 30 seconds before she couldn’t stand it anymore and picked him up again (even I’ve let him cry for longer than that if I’ve had to do something, like tend to one of the other kids, stop the dinner from burning, etc). I just love these grandparents that talk so tough and then just follow their instincts and comfort their babies.... as you do!