That and a wholllle lot of alcohol!And that's whats getting us through until she turns 25.
That and a wholllle lot of alcohol!And that's whats getting us through until she turns 25.
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LOL non-drinkers here, so a whole lot of chamomile tea!
hahahahha what else is in that chamomile tea? either that or it's bloody strong chamomile hahahaha with like 7 tea bags
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Some great posts here.
Just wanted to say that I went to a toddler tactics class recently and they were saying that when you start making changes, pick a couple of things that bother you the most and work on them until you start to see results and then pick another couple of areas to work on. If you do it all at once it can be too confusing and unsettling and you might make all the acting out worse. Of course you know your DD best though. Consistency, whatever approach you take and whatever you end up doing in response to her behaviours is critical.
The offering of limited choices mentioned earlier was another big issue discussed in the class. Toddlers are learning about having control, making decisions and consequences. Try to have natural consequences reinforced (both negative and positive) and giving her a limited choice in each situation. They also talked about having a rough structure to each day, especially when you're at home. So it might be breakfast, some TV (while you clean up from breakfast and put washing on) some outside play while you're hanging washing out, back inside for morning tea, some craft time inside, lunch, sleep (if she still has one), a walk or more outside play, afternoon tea, inside play while you get dinner organised etc etc. It doesn't really matter what the routine is but having a roughly similar pattern to the day and not letting any one activity go on too long should help. I think from memory they were saying 30-60 mins then change to something different and alternate inside and outside, active and passive activities. If she's not having a sleep, even some quiet rest time with a movie or some stories with you on the lounge in the afternoon might help. Obviously when the weather is bad this type of routine needs to change.
The other thing they said that hit a chord with me (cause I was doing this all the time) is not to provide lots of lengthy explanations or reasons or instructions. Keep it simple. I tend to rave on to DS about what is happening and why I want him to behave a certain way and what might happen if he keeps doing what he's doing. I think a lot of it goes over their head and gets confusing. Especially when they are caught up in whatever it is you want them to change.
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Yep - sounds like my DD too. I'm a fan of techniques supernanny uses
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