Esme is *exactly* like this too!

I try to put her down and ignore her when the tantrum starts (unless she's over-tired or some other thing is causing her frustrations etc.) and immediately go over and chat/hug when she's gotten over it, as i don't want her to think whining is what gets results.

I feel you ire too, XDP is the complete opposite to me, and will give her almost ANYTHING if she cries for it GRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!!

Hana