Pinky's blogs today

[Mum2twoBoys]

I find it hard to follow pinky, as I suffered/suffer from pnd and she seems to make no leniences for this. And all I end up feeling is useless and selfish when I read her stuff. Not saying that's how it's meant. It's just how it makes me feel. And trust me that doesn't help me to become a better mother for my child.

[Cassius2]

I find it hard to follow pinky, as I suffered/suffer from pnd and she seems to make no leniences for this. And all I end up feeling is useless and selfish when I read her stuff. Not saying that's how it's meant. It's just how it makes me feel. And trust me that doesn't help me to become a better mother for my child.

I have had the same reaction WM. When I was in a very dark place with DD1 and desperate for support and some love and guidance I made the mistake of reading one of her articles and being told that my depression will destroy my baby's happiness and condemn her to a life of depression herself. It was a huge slap in the face and it made me realise that just because people promote gentle parenting, it doesnt actually make them nice people ITMS. That is why i guess i wasnt offended or surprised by her outburst. Her words have always, to me, been laced with judgement and derision.

I like what she promotes (gentle parenting) but I do choose to seek my support elsewhere.

[meow]

Hmm... okay, I guess I can see how when you're in the depths of depression and you can't think straight about picking your baby up or what on earth is going on then a blog post like this feels really harsh and personal.

I know though that Pinky has supported many mothers with PND and having met her personally and sobbed through our session she was the kindest and most helpful beacon of light I came across so I love her to bits and know she's a gentle soul.

But she's also a firey woman, which I relate to so it didn't surprise me she gets mad and swears.

I completely believe this blog post was not at all directed to anyone suffering any sort of emotional detachment and struggling with how to respond to a child. I have friends exactly like the people she described who were not suffering emotional detachment but chose to parent through routines and would stand watching their baby crying on a TV monitor and would possibly ask why the baby wont stop... when really they know the baby *would* stop if they picked them up, they're just looking for another answer.

[Trillian]

Hmm... okay, I guess I can see how when you're in the depths of depression and you can't think straight about picking your baby up or what on earth is going on then a blog post like this feels really harsh and personal.

I know though that Pinky has supported many mothers with PND and having met her personally and sobbed through our session she was the kindest and most helpful beacon of light I came across so I love her to bits and know she's a gentle soul.

But she's also a firey woman, which I relate to so it didn't surprise me she gets mad and swears.

I completely believe this blog post was not at all directed to anyone suffering any sort of emotional detachment and struggling with how to respond to a child. I have friends exactly like the people she described who were not suffering emotional detachment but chose to parent through routines and would stand watching their baby crying on a TV monitor and would possibly ask why the baby wont stop... when really they know the baby *would* stop if they picked them up, they're just looking for another answer.

Unfortunately though most of the people who come across Pinky will not have had that prior knowledge of her and know where she's coming from on this one. Most would take it as a personal attack on them, even though we all know it wasn't.