We are going to the UK in 3weeks to see Dhs family- his father died this time last year and we will be scattering his ashes- DH has a ok relationship with his step mum and brother, not fantastic though, they did pull together when the dad died.

Today DH texted me and said his SIL was trying to arrange a day spa visit for me, SIL, and stepmum and he and his brother can look after the babies ( brother and SIl have a 2yo), DH asked me if Dd was ok to go without Breastfeeding for a whole day- he knows full well she can't. Also, DD has never been away from me for over 2or 3 hours, my mum and DH are pretty much the only ones she has been left with. She's generally pretty clingy to me and likes to BF at least 3 times during the day, especially if she is in a new environment.

I feel bad that I am going to have to say I can't go or can only go for a few hours, but I don't want to leave DD for a long time, she'll want to BF in that time and she'll also be around people that she has only just met for the first time ( DH will be there but she is on and off with him at times)

I Know SIL and stepmum will think I am ridiculous for not leaving her-SIL weaned at 6mths so she could go out drinking again- and while I don't really care what they say, DH is sensitive to what other people think (always saying "everyone at works babies all go to sleep by themselves/sleep though the night etc) so I need to find a way to explain to them why I can't leave her all day.

How would you word it ?(I'm going to email SIL to explain that I'm happy to go for 4 hrs but not longer)

Also, I am being over the top not wanting to leave her?