Sorry, i'm over tired and hormonal and emotional and need to get this out there.
We have to stop co-sleeping. It's been quite successful for the last year, but ds is an exceptionally light sleeper and soon I'll have a newborn in the room with me as well. It just won't work, and I want to end it now rather than later, so we are all in a stable position when the new baby comes.
But it's breaking my heart the poor kid just cries and cries- he's inconsolable. He just wants to be cuddled up next to mummy. And it's so cold at night at night at the moment. And I miss him, I miss having him there and knowing he is safe. I feel so bad- I did this to him and now I'm taking away his comfort and I feel so guilty. And to top all that off, I find myself getting cranky with him at 4am when i've been up to him 6 times and he's still screaming, and that makes me feel more guilty.
Thanks for listening. Going off to have a little cry and hunt down some chocolate.
Maybe Rainforest is on a good train of thought. Perhaps you could buy him a teddy that he can snuggle up to in your bed instead of snuggling up to mummy. Then he might start associating the teddy with comfort instead of just you and when you put him back in his own bed the teddy will be a mummy-substitute to some degree...
I've not been through the situation yet though (Kyson is only just over a month old and co-sleeping) so I have no idea if this plan would work I just hope that you find something that can help you both feel more comfortable at sleepy time Good luck!
I have just been through the exact same thing Ds has weaned and is now sleeping ion his ouwn bed in his own room! Borke my heart, like you I love the cuddles but with a baby on the way we needed him to be in his own room!
Good luck hun! It will get better just continue with your gentle techniques, we still rock him to sleep. And he will be safe and happy! xxxxx
Hey LR, missive hugs we've BTDT too and I so completely know how you feel. We stopped co-sleeping with DS when he was nearly 2, a few months before DD arrived. It was such a terrible few weeks while we all adjusted and I do still miss him (DH doesn't ). But, on balance, it really was absolutely the best thing we ever did for us as a family. We are all (yes all four of us) sleeping really well now and we still get to have delicious cuddles all together in the morning. A generally consistent good night's sleep is an amazing thing. Keep at it, be consistent, you'll get there, it won't take too long (especially if you are consistent and don't give him mixed messages about what you want him to do). Lots more hugs in the meantime
ETA: I just realised you posted this a few days ago. How are you going?
Stopping co-sleeping, but it 's breaking my heart
the poor kid just cries and cries- he's inconsolable. He just wants to be cuddled up next to mummy. And it's so cold at night at night at the moment. And I miss him, I miss having him there and knowing he is safe. I feel so bad- I did this to him and now I'm taking away his comfort and I feel so guilty. And to top all that off, I find myself getting cranky with him at 4am when i've been up to him 6 times and he's still screaming, and that makes me feel more guilty.
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I just hope that you find something that can help you both feel more comfortable at sleepy time 
Good luck!
). But, on balance, it really was absolutely the best thing we ever did for us as a family. We are all (yes all four of us) sleeping really well now and we still get to have delicious cuddles all together in the morning. A generally consistent good night's sleep is an amazing thing. Keep at it, be consistent, you'll get there, it won't take too long (especially if you are consistent and don't give him mixed messages about what you want him to do). Lots more hugs in the meantime 
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