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I just ignore it.. If my kids say it I either ignore most of the time or I turn around and say thats not nice and you know that
It is quite hard at the age your son is at though.. I personally would pretend he didn't say it at all as he will keep doing it for as long as he gets attention
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DD couldn't say truck for a long time and would say "f*&K" for truck which was hilarious the day she said "look mummy, silly f*$K" - I almost had an accident and just kept saying "yes silly truck" while wiping the tears from my eyes.
We went a similar route to Cai in that if DD repeated something that was said that she shouldn't have heard (like when I yelled at the dog, "Benny you little Bug**r") I would say oh yes he's a bitof butter or something like that. She soon forgot the word.
I don't think this will last once she gets to primary school though!
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DS said the F word once, but only because I had said it very loud and clear when I was running late for work and couldn't find my wallet...i didn't realise he was there. I didn't aknowledge he said anything just gave DP a knowing look and went about what I was doing, DS has never said it since. He has said bugger a few times after hearing me too, thats not so bad but same thing, I just don't react to it and he won't say it again (unless he hears me). Sounds like your DS knows what he is saying, rather than just copying...not sure what else you could try...a swear jar??? He might be a bit young for that LOL.
I don't react. She says it because i said it, so i can't really tell her off. I never swear at or about people though, only general swearing (as above in the "f8ck that hurt!" example).
The other week DD was examining the callous of hard skin on my thumb from where my teeth rest against the skin when i suck my thumb (yes, i still thumb-suck, at 27, no i do not have crooked teeth, no i did not have braces or any other orthodontic work done). She was asking to hear "callous" again and again. Then we went to the shop and she annouonced "mama bit the phallus" at the top of her lungs....sometimes i WISH swearing was the problem! LOL
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I am just having a quick read of this thread this morning over my cup of coffee. Although dd isn't near the age of talking proper words/sentences, I find these types of threads really interesting, cause it can give me tips/advice to maybe help avoid these sort of things. Being prepared better equips you right? lol. My only question is, and I hope this doesnt sounds stupid lol. When you 'let things go' such as swearing and not making a big deal, what happens if it completely back fires on you and they continue to say it anyway, and then they go to somehwere like Kindy and say it there too? God, I would be absolutely mortified if something like the F word came out of ava's mouth, which they then used in front of other children, who in turned used it themselves.. kwim?
Well, i swear. So part of my letting it go is that if it's good for the goose it's good for the gosling. I swore as a kid and was taught when it was appropriate and when not. Believe me, i was a socially astute child. The first time i swore when i shouldn't have i knew all about it and i felt HUMILIATED by my own misreading of the situation, and i was VERY careful after that. My DD hears me say "****" if i drop something, so she's only going to disrespect my obviously false claim that she shouldn't say it ever. But if my dad NEVER says it, and i'm perfectly happy for HIM to tell her off for it - she'll listen to him! I only preach what i can practice. I swear A LOT less than i used to, but i live in a city where "c234" is interchangeable with "him", as in "that c234 over there" when indicating to someone in a mild way (i.e. it is NOT meant as an insult at all) so she hears far worse from others every day in the street.
For me it is INCREDIBLY important that DD listens to me and respects what i say. For this reason i try to be true to my own word. I have a wide and varied vocabulary and swear words are part of it. Yes, it isn't ideal to have a child who says "f***" to elderly lollypop ladies, but i'm not too worried about what kind of kid she'll be, i'm only concerned with what kind of adult she'll be.
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You don't even have to explain that one Hoobley, I am glasweigen through my mother who was born there!!live in a city where "c234" is interchangeable with "him
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