Excellent thread Krys!!

DD1 gets to choose her bed time story, and we tell her to go to the toilet before we put her night nappy on. She also puts her own rubbish in the bin.

The girls feed the dog. I think it teaches them that they need to look after him, and it also teaches him that they are boss. Sarah is still learning to get close enough to get him to sit for his dinner.

We try to give them responsibilities that encourage them to be more independant, but not beyone their ages. DD1 now has permission to get up first in the morning and play quietly, on the condition that she doesn't go into DD2's room. When she goes into DD2's room she has to go back into her room and stay there.

We are sticklers for manners though. If the manners dont get used there is no chance of them getting what they asked for.