Another programme to consider is the "three choices" parenting programme.

It's fantastic!

It's a combination of the 123 magic programme (time-out programme which encourages parents to use 'less talk and less emotion'); emotion coaching (which is about helping kids deal with some of their tough feelings) and "doing nothing" (for the times when the best thing to do is ignore the behaviour).

If you google "parentshop", you can find out information on who the 'three choices' practitioners are in your state

Good luck!!!