It must be so hard to go against all your instincts and care for a baby in the exact opposite way you would care for a baby of your own. I do not envy you at all.

Sounds to me like this mother wants this baby to sleep through the night and not wake her up so she is following all that old advice about filling him up with food and formula and making him settle himself off to sleep, not making a rod for her own back and all that crap.

I could say a lot more but I probably shouldn't...so let's just leave it at that. But I would feel exactly the same way as you.