Tellytubby, I know it seems harsh what she is doing, but as I said I don't deal with the family alot, and I really don't think she's doing it because she doesn't love him or anything. I just really think this is all she's been taught and it's what seems to be working for them as a family. I don't feel comfortable judging her for any of it, I'm just syaing that it all feels so wrong for me to do because it's not what I do kwim? I have learnt things about why usinf slow flow teats help with reflux and vommiting, I learnt why it's not advised to give solids under 6ish mths, I learnt why it's gentler to co sleep and not to leave baby crying to sleep. I'm betting this is just what others have told her work for them so she is trying what they have said works. As I said I'm sure she's acting in his best interests.
And BTW I do just cuddle him all the time when I'm there with him. He's soooo gorgeous and makes me so clucky!!