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This is what I was trying to say as well. I can't just tell her the way I do things because the way she does things offends and upsets me. I am the one with the problem, I am the one who has to deal with it. She is not saying she has any issues with the way things are for them. The baby is happy enough. There are absolutely no signs of any abuse or neglect (as such). This is my job, and I come into contact with many many different parenting styles. This is just the first time I have encountered a family who have done so many things that go against my own beliefs and practices. And I just get upset when he's upset with his routines. He's still so little.

asugirl, I would be pretty pee'd off too if someone did things I asked not to be done for my little one. And though I did wrap him that one time, I was not aware we were not supposed to. If I am having a really difficult time dealing with doing things mum has asked to do for baby, I will usually ask someone else to do it instead. Like feeding solids. I asked one of the other girls to do it today. I just couldn't do it. I have explained to my director why and she's ok with it.


Thanks everyone for your understanding and suggestions. I appreciate it It's hard to go against instincts in a situation which deals with a baby so young.
But, I want to reiterate that I don't doubt that mum is doing what she thinks is best. And it might be best for the family. It just goes against my own practices, which is why I labelled the thread a vent!!
It it tough hey? Seeing things, parenting styles, etc that just about break your heart, some people just don't know any better and do the best they can - I do think it's fine to 'offer' tidbits of advice though - which I casually do from time to time.