Sneaking food is so hard - which is why I just don't buy in problem foods. DS can help himself to carrots or apples. Any food he's not allowed to sneak is put higher than he can reach/climb. Even if it means climbing myself. Or just not buying some of it in.

Can you put a lock on the pantry door too? Not a child lock, a proper one? Or a bolt at the top of the door?
I Put a child lock on there which is working so far thanks for that suggestion.

But im gonna bite the bullet here with a push from DH and ask how I learn to calm down and be able to deal with my daughters problems, DH thinks I need to be gentle with her as the pead thinks she may have High functioning autism, I get so frustrated which leads to me growling at her, how on earth do I change that to use positive reinforcement.

Perhaps I should start a new thread for this??